One of the things that often surprises people about historians is that we’re not really that good with dates.
That’s why there are reference books, after all.
We’re good about the order of things – what led to what which led to what else, that sort of thing – but remembering the actual date of anything is always a bit of a trick. That’s one of the reasons why I don’t get too caught up about dates on my exams. Tell me which one came third; tell me what led to what. Dates are just a way to keep score.
This is often true in my own life as well. Often even when I can remember a date (“Joe’s birthday is the 13th … ”) I will have no clue as to what the actual date is today (“ … and that’s not until … um … last week. Huh.”) which can be interesting, especially around Joe.
This is especially true when I have attached specific events to movable dates. Easter. Spring Break. That sort of thing. Then I have no idea when things are actually happening. I figure I will be informed.
All of which is essentially preamble to the discovery that I made sometime this afternoon that it is my wedding anniversary today.
In my head, my wedding anniversary is the Saturday after Thanksgiving, which isn’t for another five days yet. We planned it that way because we are academics and that’s when our friends could come out for the festivities, and that is more or less how I remember it year after year.
But it really is today.
It’s been an eventful two dozen years, really. I got my PhD. Kim got tenure. We had two amazing children. We bought a house. We’ve had cats, chickens, turkeys, rabbits, hamsters, and more than one pig. We’ve taken trips and had friends and family visit us. We’ve cycled through a number of cars and computers. It’s been a time.
And we’ve been through it all together.
I wouldn’t have it any other way.